How to do self-promotion and still respect yourself
The more senior you get, and if you're aspiring to even more senior positions, the more important it is to be able to share with people what you do and what you know and the value you bring.
Ideally, you'd have people see you in action, but that's not always possible. So no matter what we're doing, we are going to have to engage in some form of self promotion.
For some people, they're naturals. Lucky them, right?
For most of us, this is something that's hard. In fact, sometimes it can feel embarrassing or unseemly. I even have one client who tells me he thinks of it as these people swanning around. How unattractive is that, right?
But you know what? It doesn't have to be that way.
It's all about the how, two kinds of how:
- How you think about it, which is what I call “how you frame it”, and then
- How do you actually do it.
Let's talk about both of those things.
So first, three ideas for how you can frame it in a more energising way.
How to think about self-promotion
- The first way is think about it as you are advertising your team.
It's your responsibility, in fact, to help your team be successful and look good, and your team can't always do this themselves because they don't travel in the same senior circles that you do. So think of it not as yourself but it's for your team.
- The second way to frame it is to think about as you're simply keeping others informed.
Unless you're working with mind readers, you've got to tell them what's going on and why that's valuable. In fact, think of it as you're really being helpful to them because they can take this information and probably either do their jobs better or feel inspired that someone, your group has achieved this success and maybe they can actually do that too.
Or maybe it's about just giving them information that will help them look smart in front of their clients, but you're helping them by sharing that information.
And you might want to set some triggers for yourself so that you actually do that. So triggers such as every time you finish a project, that might be a trigger to say, “Ah, who can I help by keeping them informed about this?”
Or your trigger might be every time that you discover a shortcut or a better way to do something or bring in a piece of business. You get the idea.
- The third way to reframe is to think about it as you're just helping your boss to look good.
You're sharing some nuggets with your boss that they can pass on to their senior management.
You're arming your boss with proof points and I know that, when I was in senior positions, it was really useful for me to hear these kinds of nuggets from my direct reports so that I can demonstrate the success of our whole unit and also show momentum.
So go out there and share some of those nuggets.
So now let's move into the other how. How do you actually do it?
How to do self-promotion
Here are three quick thoughts.
- Keep it factual. That's the best way to feel like you're not boasting and you're not bragging, but rather you're just giving them the facts.
So let's use the example of somebody on your team, let's call him Jerome, who has just done something really successful with a project and it's based on a new strategy that you started at the beginning of the year.
So your keeping it factual might sound something like, and this is talking to your boss, “Hey, Jerome and his team just completed project XYZ and that delivered P&L of A.”
- Then the second part of how is to put it into context. Give them the takeaways and the why it's important.
So you might say, “You know what, that's the third win we've had using this new strategy and it's also put us ahead of budget. By the way, you might want to go and congratulate Jerome. I know it would mean a lot to him coming from you.”
- Then the third part of the how is just keep it quick.
Remember, you're delivering a nugget, a proof point. And if your boss, or whoever else wants to hear more, they will ask you. But in the meantime, you want to keep it quick, easy, so that it becomes part of your normal repertoire of behaviours.
So get out there, share what you know and what you've done and start helping people by:
- Advertising your team
- Keeping others informed, and
- Making your boss look good.
I'm going to leave you with this question:
What are your best strategies for self promotion in a way that feels comfortable to you?
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Love this article. I was very lucky early in my career to have a great boss that looked out for me and told me that I should toot my horn in my self-evaluations, documenting all my accomplishments, even rating myself in my current role and the role I wanted to get promoted in, ensuring that I was working towards the next level.
He also told me this was important because most of the times, be it human nature or conditioning, people tend to remember the bad over the good. When discussed or put down on paper, showing the good work done, the bad then tends to be forgotten.
Great article May! Keep up the good work!
Many thanks, Mustafa. What a great boss you had, and wonderful that you have learned to carry on with his advice as you’ve moved forward. So pleased you’ve shared this with us.
Best,
May
Another way of calling attention to yourself without being unseemly would be to leverage a commercial accomplishment you’ve made (closed a significant p/l transaction, developed a new process or technology, secured an important mandate) to help other adjacent groups or people in your network. Making money (in banking) is one thing, but helping OTHERS to make money means your talent is scalable. If you use your achievements to teach others to replicate it in their way, you’ve not only put yourself in a great light but probably picked up networking brownie points. May, yours was a good article and is an important piece of advice people find hard to follow.
Love your point about making your talent scalable by helping others. Many thanks for sharing this powerful thought – it’s “spot on” (as they say in the UK!)
Hi May
I find the subjects of your blog so relatable, it’s as if you are reading my mind!
I am very very bad at self-promotion. Its not really my type of thing and I am very uncomfortable and sometimes feel foolish trying to toot my horn.
Somehow I have grown up thinking of self-promotion as done by people who are just all talk and no action.
Just when I was wondering how I could get around this, I stumbled upon this blog!
It’s as if you are reading my mind!
I like the way you have advised to first frame it as a positive action. Once you are convinced it is, it becomes easier to do it.
I will be putting the tips that you gave in action soon 🙂
Hi Tanu – thank you for your kind words, and I’m so glad you are putting these tips in action! Please let me know how things go. I’m rooting for you!
Best,
May