How to Decide If a Late-Career Change Is Worth It
I recently came across a New York Times article on whether it’s worth it to make a late-career change.
Specifically, “A reader has eight years to go until retirement, at a job that has become almost unbearable. Is it better to explore other options even if that means taking a step backward, or to play it safe and ride it out?”
What would you do if this were you?
When I read this, a swirl of thoughts came into my head: When does “late-career” mean “too late” and is it ever too late to change your work or life? What does it mean to retire and why does age have to matter? Why would anyone tolerate misery when they have other options, whether they realize it or not?
As with most things, the answer that works for me (and I’ll tell you what I did in a minute) might not work for others.
In the end, I think it comes down to this.
1. You owe it to yourself to explore your options
Especially if you’re unhappy. When you have options, it makes you feel more confident and empowered. You’re able to make decisions from a position of strength rather than fear. And your explorations may even convince you to stay where you are if the grass doesn’t look greener on the other side.
2. Don’t let yourself be constrained by arbitrary designations like retirement age
First of all, they’re getting pushed out – we’ll all be working longer as life expectancy rises. And secondly, we all need to have a reason to get up in the morning whether we’re 25, 65 or beyond. As long as you’re healthy and motivated to work, why not keep going?
3. Get clear on your “end game”
For some, like some of my husband’s golf buddies, retirement is hugely attractive. They can play whenever they want and travel the world to play on some of the best courses.
For others, like my father, it’s a terrible idea. He loves his work and wants to do it for as long as he possibly can.
There's no right or wrong. You just need to be honest with yourself about your ideal “end game” because that's what drives the risk/reward equation for your decision.
4. Don’t settle for either/or decisions
How you frame your choices in life affects the quality of your decisions. If you see things as an “either/or” dilemma, then you’re closing off a host of other possible options.
For those big life decisions where you’ve framed it as an either/or where neither option is attractive, it’s in your interest to look for what I call “the third way”.
5. Don’t worry about taking a step backward
If it means you’re setting yourself up to take a step forward into a better future. Recognize that a step backward or sideways from what you perceive as a “dead end” is what allows you to move forward. And that makes it a smart move.
6. Give yourself permission to negotiate for what you want
You owe it to yourself to try to make it work on your terms. It could be to negotiate for another role that involves less of what makes you miserable, or an additional team member to help you handle the parts that don’t suit you.
It could also mean looking externally as well as internally at the same time and auctioning yourself off to the better opportunity. And external options can include setting out your own stall as an independent consultant in your area of expertise.
7. Know where to draw the line, especially when it comes to your health
Without health, you can’t do much so don’t compromise. I can’t help but think of my former colleague who stayed too long in a job reporting to a toxic boss and she ended up on disability.
The same is true for drawing the line when it comes to your integrity. It’s your reputation at stake, and that’s an asset worth protecting.
8. A year is a long time
And eight years could be an eternity when you’re in a job that’s almost unbearable. Especially one that could damage your health. If you can’t find a way to make it work where you are, you owe it to yourself to find another option.
My late-career change
As for me, I did make a late-career change. It was a hard decision, but I’m glad I did it. That’s because I see myself learning, growing and developing myself professionally for as long as I can.
I’m a do-er, so playing golf or watching the waves roll in on the beach on a permanent basis sound like “hard work” for me. And my first career was rewarding in many ways, but it was not my higher calling.
Since we’re all different, there’s no single “right answer”. As the Paul Simon song goes, “one man’s ceiling is another man’s floor”.
What I do know is that life is short and none of us knows how much time we have left. So it pays to make the most of every day and do our best to enjoy the journey of life.
And on the other hand, you may have more decades ahead than you anticipate, you might have more runway to build that next career than you think.
So how about you?
What would you do if faced with this decision about making a late-career change?
Leave a comment and let me know.
Hi May, thanks for a great post. I decided after working all of my life that I would still want to work
and I took a job a part time job at Costco in Leeds. Just doing what was asked of me, always giving 100%, no pressure
and I love it.
Best regards
Barry.
Hi Barry – It’s marvelous (and fabulous!) that you are spreading your positive outlook and approach to life in Leeds and beyond. Love how you make work joyful. Keep going!
Best,
May
I have been following you since your very excellent curation of the superb Career Mastery series in January. Thankyou for that!
But I am really disappointed by your apparent attitude here to ill-health and disability.
You say: “Without health, you can’t do much”, Let me break it to you gently. Eventually, as you age, or if / when you unfortunately get a clinical condition, then even you will not have exemplary health for the rest of your life. Will you then be put in a box where you “cant do much”?
Even though having “a reason to get up in the morning” may then actually be even more important.
I have had multiple sclerosis for 30 years. With it, I have run 10 marathons. I have had a varied and exciting career, including working in the Tuberculosis Prisons in Siberia, and as Chief Medical Officer on an actively volcanic island. I kept silent about my intermittent ill-health because I know that other people’s attitudes are likely to be as or even more disabling than my MS. I never want condescension (“poor you” – usually followed by ‘clever’ ideas about what I should or should not do) or ‘admiration’ (this makes asking for any help extremely difficult).
You too, when you eventually do not have exemplary health, may find something similar.
Recently, when I could no longer work ten hour shifts in a central London Emergency Room, I “ended up on disability”. I’m not here at all suggesting that everyone should continue working until they drop dead, but the idea that this is the “end” is not exactly cheery. Or healthy.
Maybe you’re reconciled to only helping similar people to you with productivity ideas for them?
Its certainly true that many standard productivity ideas (work smarter and harder for longer) can even be counterproductive for me.
For example, I cant streamline / skimp my MS-related exercises. In the last month, I’ve had to spend many hours preparing and going and seeing lots of different doctors (i’m stopping much of this as not useful). I have MS fatigue (this can include cognitive fatigue and isnt sorted by a good nights sleep).
Despite this, I’m now reinventing myself as an artist (I’ve already been paid some money for this, which was very exciting) and doing some very different sorts of writing. This is why my website isnt up to date – I’ve been busy re-inventing / learning. (And doing my exercises / seeing all those doctors …)
I’m not the only person taking a very different approach.
I think in the US, you call this encore careers? Are you going to think about collating advice that isnt only about climbing the greasy pole? And doesnt make unhelpful assumptions?
With best wishes
Caroline
Hi Caroline,
Thank you for your kind words about Career Mastery Kickstart, and thanks so much for sharing your observations, experiences and perspective.
You make excellent points and I appreciate your suggestions for future blog posts and dialogue.
Thanks as well for including the word “apparent” – in the future, I’ll choose my words more carefully to accurately represent my beliefs.
Congratulations on an awesome career so far, and on reinventing yourself as an artist. Encore careers are often the most rewarding. I look forward to hearing more, and wish you much joy and prosperity.
Best,
May
As a UK GP I’ve struggled with this decision as well. What I decided to do was to reduce my GP work to the minimum that I could get away with while maintaining a balance of financial prudence, and what I could stand physically and mentally. I then built up several more rewarding activities. Not everyone can have a portfolio career, but I agree that looking at changing what you can within the job and developing in other areas outside it is worth looking at. One problem is that when you are under a lot of stress with a crap job and working with crap people you can become quite blinkered into an all or nothing mind frame. Sometimes your self esteem can be eroded similar to the effect on a battered wife for instance. I agree that it can be better to get out while you still have your wits, self esteem and physical health intact. External counselling can be really helpful.
Great points, Katherine. Wonderful to hear you’ve found a positive way forward and are now enjoying your mix of activities.
You’re right that it’s not easy to recognize the signs and take action before getting to that blinkered stage. And I couldn’t agree more about getting (and accepting) support from others – it’s hard to succeed on our own.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Katharine,
You made a good point that working the “crap” job in an environment with similar “crap” attitudes can be draining. I so confer as I have been and it is draining, especially when the hours are long. I have taken a step back and been focusing more on my interests and ways to grow them into strengths, and yes a new career. This article is a good reminder to do just that. Its always good to have a supportive tribe along the way too.
Best-
Wishing you well on your new path, and love your point about having a supportive tribe!
Toxic environments lead to stress. Stress impacts health in ways that we cannot image, until it takes a toll on you personally. May, you were spot on about maintaining one’s health. Toxic work-environments impact health, attitude, and ability to perform at one’s best. Thanks.
Totally agree, KF. Thanks for contributing your thoughts!
Hi May, I changed my career because of a fall that I had, so it was not my choice! I had been very happy in my career as an ophthalmologist! However, after I recovered from my fall (which took about 6 months) I was told that I could not continue as an ophthalmologist because my short term memory had been damaged. I was VERY upset!!! However, I realized that it was true – I can remember everything about my 3 girls when they were growing up, but I can do something today and I won’t remember it tomorrow.
So now, I volunteer in my husband’s office one day a week, and I volunteer at the hospital two mornings a week! I am providing useful help all the time, and I still have plenty of time for myself! I play tennis once a week, and see friends whenever I like, and I have plenty of time to read great books!!!
And I would like to say to Caroline: yes, you are right!!! I have also discovered myself by taking art classes at a local college which I have found to be extremely satisfying!
So thank you, May, my sister!!!
Hi Ann,
I’m so grateful that you are my wonderful sister! And it’s lovely to know that you are so happy.
Your positivity inspires me. Keep going!
Best,
May
Tanks for those points!
As I am in a toxic work environment I need to start doing something. Great to read about the successes here. Keep up the work- and someone needs to give me that kick so I try harder to get out of the wheel…
Hein